I have a question. How long do lips have to be to be considered large? I've seen pics of lips that look smaller/different shapes to mine on large labia website which upsets me alot. The only pics I've seen that look like mine are rated very badly on 'ratemynaughty' followed by comments about chopping off those freaky roast beef lips.
I have googled labial hypertrophy extensively and STILL can't find figures on what constitutes bigger than average. I suspect I may be top 10% :-( which makes me very much in a minority. On a good day, mine measure around 2cm at the longest point but sometimes they measure nearer 3 (no idea what causes this change in size...)
Please don't reply statistics don't mean anything or that you love large lips (I know a small minority of men like this.) I want an honest answer as to what is considered large and how many women really have large lips.
I've gone away from this site for a few wekes, tried to feel better about myself but NOTHING seems to work. They are sore and irritated all the time from rubbing/ me trying to push them inside the other lips. I'm aware of them when I walk, when i bend down and even when I sleep I dream about them. I wash daily and thouroughly but they seem to smell and get horrible white stuff in all the folds really quickly. (I don't have any infections.) Everyone says hairless vaginas seem more hygeinic and I think small labia would smell better/stay clean for longer.
Sometimes after a shower it looks like a tiny willy poking out of me and I can't stand the feeling of it rubbing on my underwear. I love wearing skinny jeans and little thongs... the problem seems to be getting worse as I get older and these things are uncomfortbale. I don't want to wear baggy pants (these are more uncomfortbale) or loose underwear. I want to be able to wear what everyone else my age does and not feel like a man with a ball sack.
Please tell me the truth. How many women really look like me with saggy 2cm lips!???
Thanks. I'm so glad someone finally agreed surgery might be an option in certain cases. I can't afford it right now but it's something I'll consider in future. To be honest though, I think you're both right in saying that it's not a 'solution' as such, as I may end up worrying about scars, permanent pain, still looking different etc...
I know the best solution is to learn to love my body but I'm finding this 'labia' issue so difficult. I don't mind a bit of cellulite ont he back of my legs because I feel everyone has it. It's the feeling 'different' thing I hate. And it hurts so much to hear people talk about enlarged and extended labia and laughing about it.
I know people have said the embarrassing bodies programme is a stupid thing to be hung up on but it really has destroyed my self image (if you ever looked at the website for enlarged labia you'd see I'm not the only one...)
I honestly wish I could go back to a time when I wasn't aware of how the 'ideal' fanny is meant to look. I had absolutely NO IDEA that a woman's vagina would even enter into a man's radar... Anyway, thanks for your support.
ECC22,
You seem to have taken the negative statements which you found someplace online as being the Gospel, while at the same time finding yourself unable to accept what is being said here on this site. Do you see the discrimination in that? You are choosing the bad, and refusing to accept the good. As you have no doubt noticed, there are lots of men here who absolutely LOVE larger labia. In my experience, that is true of most men, even if they might on occasion joke around while sitting in a bar drinking with their buddies. The real question is, what do you take seriously?? The fact that most men love larger labia and find them deeply sexual? Or the ravings of young boys and inexperienced men who really don't yet know what they're talking about? As mentioned above, the reason for "Playboy" and others to do the airbrushing, is because the extended labia are considered too sexual to print.
The real key for you, is to get to know your body better, to learn about all the pleasure and joy it can give to you, and then to come to appreciate the very real gift of your labia. I will suggest to you, as I have suggested to others, that you go entirely without underwear for a while. Feel the natural, wholesome sexiness of your body. Enjoy the feeling of the lips rubbing together when you walk. Wear skirts and dresses as often as you can. Let your body breathe. Touch it as often as you can during the day. Just think of how good it will feel when you have some hard cock pushing past those beautiful, full labia of yours. There is so much more, of course, but try starting with that.
As to surgery, as you yourself mention, there are all the dangers of scars, infection, on and on. And, who is to say that the lips would emerge as short as you might desire, or be even, or whatever else can go wrong with any surgical proceedure?? Then, as you also mention, there is the expense. In the meantime, you are truly wasting your life, in that you are foregoing all the many pleasures, the deep joy and satisfaction which can come from making good use of your body, and enjoying all it can do for you. You are allowing your life to pass by, while missing out on the very thing which makes it all worthwhile.
I understand you feel I'm wasting your time. Sorry you feel that way.
It's not intentional, it's just everyone keeps telling me to embrace my 'diversity' and rare jewel and that it's beautiful etc... But the thing is, I'm so angry about being 'abnormal' (to me it's the same as rare...) so when people say it's unique and rare and beautiful, it only makes me feel a million times more upset.
That's why I came looking for stats/information on how many women are 'messy looking' down there. Whenever I'm with women, i always think I must have the ugliest biggest, saggiest fanny there.
I have tiny outer labia (they haven't grown since I was a child and are 1cm deep) so I have this lump of rotting meat hanging out of me. Urghh. Is there any way to submit pictures? (not via email) I have no desire for anyone to tell me it's beautiful (I know you will all do that because you're into big lips.) I just want an HONEST opinion of how big I really am.
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